Pathways to Change - NLP & Tai Chi

New Behaviour Generator - (Bandler Version)

Use this to help generate new and alternative behaviours to any existing behaviours that you do not like……

(1) Imagine looking off a little to your right, and see yourself in front of you.

(2) Decide what you would like to learn how to do. It may be acting in a more satisfying way in a current situation or it may be doing something new. How would that other you look if that other you could already do it? Construct a movie of that other you doing it. If the movie is incomplete, that other you, can pretend 'as if' he/she were able to handle situations like that easily. Now watch as the movie fills in any missing parts. If you need more information think of someone who could handle this situation well and use them as a skilled role model. Carefully observe and listen as the role model performs the desired behaviour. Have that role model transform into that other you doing the new behaviour in the desired situation or location.

(3) See and hear that other you doing the new behaviour in the desired situation or location.

(4) Is what you see and hear what you want? Is that satisfactory to you?

(5) If something is missing, or if the experience doesn't sound satisfying or appropriate, adjust it until it is a full and satisfying experience. You can do this by deliberately making the changes you want. Or you can just let a fog or mist appear to conceal the movie while your unconscious mind makes the adjustments. Just let the fog clear when it's adjusted appropriately.

(6) Step into the beginning of your movie and live through it in the desires situation, having all the sensations and feelings.

(7) Discover if anything is missing from the experience. If it is a full, satisfying and desirable experience, skip ahead to step 9.

(8) If something is missing, or the experience is not satisfying or appropriate, step out of the image, and adjust it according to the feedback from steps 5, 6 and 7, until it is a full, satisfying and desirable experience.

(9) When is the next time you're likely to encounter a situation in which you might exhibit the old behaviour? Give yourself a 'dress rehearsal' now of actually having the new behaviour in that situation. Do this for several different future situations.